- Once you have shared vulnerable information about yourself with another person - there is always a possibility that the other person can use that information against you. It happens. We're all imperfect. And whether the other person intends to or not, there's always a possibility of getting hurt. Deeply. I've been there. When someone knows what hurts you and then decides to use that very thing to 'get you.' Ouch.
- Another reason I've held back who I am - embarrassment - or the not so fun word 'pride.' I don't want others to know what I'm really capable of. I don't think God wants us to blast it around to everyone who will listen, but in relationships sharing is okay. But pretending that I have it all together when I really don't - what good does it do? My friend and I both miss out on an opportunity of growth when I answer her with an, "I'm fine," when I'm not. My mind challenges me - 'Don't let her know ___ about you. She'll think you're ___!' Worrying about what others think about me is a pride issue.
- I'm also afraid of becoming emotional, so that has discouraged me from sharing at times. I hate to cry in front of others. Some people are cute criers. I'm an ugly crier! I always appreciate when other let down their guard and show emotion though - so I just have to get over this and hope that others will appreciate my honesty.
- The devil doesn't want me to share sometimes. He will tell me all kinds of lies and try to scare me out of sharing. Because God uses our pasts and our hurts to encourage and comfort others sometimes, Satan does not want us to share!
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 2 Corinthians 1:3-5
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. Hebrews 10:24-25I doubt that we can do this by talking about the surface things, gossiping about others and answering 'I'm fine'... Pray, grab a friend or someone you want to be friends with, have a cup of coffee and be real. Be blessed!
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