|My sweet Em|
I, however, had a hard time with it! It really hurt! I really am struggling with wanting to 'prepare' her (actually control the situation - hm...never been a problem for me) for middle school so she doesn't have to go through some of the same hurts I went through! Evidently one of the things I thought would make her sixth grade experience 'all that' was being on a school team. All my junior high insecurities are showing up with a vengeance. I'm buying her shoes she hasn't even discovered yet so that she has what everyone else has and polling all moms on the time frame of when is actually the correct time to start shaving legs. I've spent how many years telling her to be herself and now this? What am I doing?! I need to back off and just pray!! And be there for her when she does have problems... But, does it really hurt to just ask her if she might want to check her braces for food or brush her hair before going out the door? Just sayin'!
As parents, we want the best for our kids and we want to try to make things as easy as possible on them. We even want them to do things better than we did at their age. But, we have to remember how we learned to do things better - we failed, we got hurt and we figured out solutions. And as much as we want the best for our kids...God wants the best for them even more so. "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 Thank goodness God doesn't give us everything we ask for. He protects us from harm by closing some of these doors that we think would be best for our kids!
I think about how much I've messed up in my own life by trying to control things instead of letting God give me His best for me...I definitely shouldn't be trying to control other people's lives too. I acknowledge that my children are 'fearfully and wonderfully made,' in His image. They are precious and are His! Releasing them over to Him, the world and themselves to make the decisions that they need to make in order to be formed into the adults that God wants them to be...this is a hard 'letting go' stage in a parent's life and one I imagine will be ongoing for a good few years in this house.
It's starting to get harder - the parenting thing! My confused daughter told me the other night, "I don't know why I'm acting like this!" Oh honey - I know!! If only it got better after 11! I still don't know why I'm acting like this!